who are you?

"our actions, our choices, what you do today
will define who you are"

Benign: [bih-nahyn] -adjective
1. having a kindly disposition; gracious
2. showing expressive of gentleness or kindness
3. favorable; propitious

the official dictionary definition. but what does the word truly mean. is it a gracious pass? a favorable outcome? once the word is spoken is it business as usual? life goes on? or is there a deeper meaning? an unspoken expectation? those who do not hear the word spoken out loud face great challenges, unforeseen obstacles. so those that do, should they be held accountable to revel in the miracle of life?

Perhaps for them benign means
1. do not take for granted
2. do not settle
3. make every choice count

i thought when mom left me i knew the value of speaking out, sharing your thoughts, your feelings. i thought i had learned the lesson of the fragility of life. i was wrong. losing someone close to you breaks your heart in ways words can not describe. but when you hear the word cancer as it may pertain to your own health, that is an entirely different ballgame. looking into the eyes of your children and wondering if you can be, will be a 'survivor' takes courage you never knew you had.

many people hear the word often, hundreds of thousands of tests are done almost daily to determine who will be the next warrior in the fight against cancer. i am among the lucky. i have been given a pass. a kindly disposition, a small reminder that life is fleeting. a chance to reconnect to what is most important and to stay true to what is precious.

so i commit to
1. love with all my heart
2. to never settle or take the easy way for fear of failure
3. to cherish each person and every gift in my life

life is a journey, a wonderful adventure... it's time for me to get back to living each and every minute to the fullest.

"it is the forks in the road that determine who you become.

Choose wisely...
the easiest, safest choice is not necessarily the best choice"