Settle or Compromise

A quiet drive to Moab ... a long stretch of road, somewhere on US-191, during a conversation with a dear friend I was told, "Jodi, Never Settle!"

Isn't is strange how some things just stay with you? Never Settle! Hhhmmmm. He was right ... in love, in life, work, or play ... one should Never Settle! I agree whole heartily.

But I wonder, when is it considered settling and when is it considered a compromise? As I navigate my way through an uncharted journey to find that special someone "Never Settle" echos in my mind. I have met some really great men with countless, wonderful qualities. Some made me laugh, some had endless compassion, they have been funny, witty, confident, shy, driven, content. Each had something I am searching for ... but maybe not all of what I think I need. If a man is compassionate but shy, or confident but serious and if I choose to work to make him mine is that a compromise or am I 'settling'?

I am still a work in progress myself. Hell, life is a constant evolution of change we all live thru. Every experience, every encounter, every relationship molds us into a different shape so I wonder if I love him... really love him then is it not a 'settle', maybe even not a 'compromise' ... but more a union. A chance to create a solid foundation for both to grow upon, to intertwine with to give us strength, to helps us grow, to let us love ... real love ... unconditional, burning through your soul kind of love?

I find it perplexing that we all say we are searching for LOVE, single adults my age say they want love, yet they (we) work so hard to find the flaws in the relationship. If we are wiser with age then why do we find it so hard to obtain the one thing we say we want most?

Settle? or Compromise? Perhaps it's time for all to move forward with trust and faith....